Purpose

I’ve spent part of my morning listening to self-improvement recordings and each that I’ve listened to seems to have a particular point that I took away from it.

Lisa Jimenez says “Behavior is change through emotion not logic,” and that there is a synergy between you and cosmic forces. When you say “I AM a successful designer” you are declaring not merely suggesting and this creates for you an emotional link that ties you to the affirmation. When you visualize you must translate your words into imagery. According to Lisa the brain doesn’t process words, it processes images. I agree with this.

When I was in college (not so long ago as you might think!) I had a remarkable english professor who taught Composition I & II. His mantra through both courses was one word: VIVID! He taught us to use words to paint imagery. He insisted that we write in a way that we make the reader feel, hear, smell, see the events not just the words. In doing so we were inviting our reader into our writing. What a tremendous gift to give a reader!

So, what does $100,000 look like to you? What would $100,000 give you this year, in physical terms? A new car? a new home? all of your bills paid off so that you can go to that super nice restaurant and not have to think twice about pulling out a credit card because your debt is gone and you have the money to pay the cc off next week? Is it a VISA card? MBNA? Platinum? Or do you have a roll of green bills because you just like having the cash in your hand to give the cashier?

What color is the car? model? can you smell the leather? what is playing on your cd/dvd player?

Describe the house you will have? Is it large and modern, small and cozy, an older farm house or a quaint victorian? Is it in the mountains? Down south? by the ocean? East coast? West coast? Can you see the trees? plants? street? hear the sounds? is there a porch? skylight? what is the kitchen like? tour your home and describe the rooms as if you are showing it to a friend.

VIVID!

Jeff Keller says, “Positive belief, when optimistic, leads forward.” He also has conducted many surveys by way of question cards in his seminars that show the top 2 fears we have are: Fear of Speaking and the Fear of Failure/Rejection. His response to that is “If you want to be highly successful you have to be willing to be uncomfortable.” As much as I wish I could disagree with him, I know personally that he is right. Only when I tell myself that I have to do something regardless of the outcome do I find the courage to do it. I have, however, preceded this with a bit of self-discussion (a nice way of saying I talk myself into it by talking to myself). The self-discussion goes something like this:

Me: Okay, so what’s the worse that can happen if I do this?
Self: You could be the laughing stock of the day.
Me: Okay, and ..
Self: You could get there, realize it’s not going to work and leave.
Me: Okay, and more?
Self: You could find someone really interesting to talk to, or meet someone who calls you to work with them.
Me: Okay, so what you are saying is that the worse that can happen is I make a fool out of myself, right?
Self: Yep.
Me: Or I could just enjoy meeting new people, right?
Self: Yep.
Me: Or, the best that can happen is I meet new interesting people who are interested in what I can do with them professionally, yes?
Self: Those are the possibilities, yep.
Me: So, I won’t die, i won’t be arrested, and I won’t be scarred for life.
Self: You got it!
Me: Hmm .. I can handle that.
Self: Sure you can. I knew it all along.

I’m not even kidding. I do this self-pep talk often just before I’m going to a networking event. As soon as I come to grips with the worst that can happen and I realize that it won’t be as bad as being hurt or maimed, I can gather together the remnants of my courage and get myself to the event. Make no mistake, I shake like a leaf the whole time but gradually I realize that there’s nothing to be afraid of. Most of the people attending these events are like me, real human beings who are looking to make connections in the local community with other business owners for any number of reasons. There will always be a portion that think they are untouchable but they usually aren’t what Bob Burg calls the “center of influences” in the room anyway. Egotists rarely are although they think they are.

Lisa also touched on this in her talk, with regard to rejections. If you think about what she says, “it takes 10 No’s to get 1 Yes,” you can start to look at the “no’s” as one more down .. only X to go! to get to that precious yes! It’s turning the negative into the positive and making it work for you instead of against you.

I think, though before we get to that point we have to learn to look at and then let go of the past because a lot of what we’ve experienced before learning how important our positive attitude is, has been negatively influencing our lives. Society is conditioned to controlling the masses, and masses are most easily controlled by making them feel negatives instead of positives, sometimes even when the exhortation is phrased to sound as if it is not that way. That, however, we’ll explore next time!

May All Your Dreams Come True!

Char

The Secret ~ Do You Know What It Is?

I have to say, when I first heard about this I shook my head. I sincerely thought I had fallen into a colossal scam. I had no intention of watching the video and I was beginning to think my colleague, Gary was a nutcase.

A nice nutcase but a nutcase, nonetheless!

Well, the nutty guy actually paid for me to watch the 90-minute movie, and since I didn’t have to give away any identifying information or commit myself to anything at all, I figured I’d at least visit the site and see what all of this was about.

Within 60 seconds I was hooked. First of all the film was exceptionally well done. Musical score, videography, ambiance, clarity … just a really well done piece. Being a literature and medieval student, I was really absorbed by the historical references. It doesn’t matter if they are “true” or not, the way they were used illustrated the objective of the piece. What really nailed me down for 90 minutes was the cast. Now, they weren’t celebrities .. no Angelina’s, no Johnny Depp’s, no glitz, no glitter .. but they were very reputable personages from various walks of life and highly respected leaders in their professions, such as Joe Vitale and Jack Canfield.

Anyway, to get on with the getting on. I’m not an airy-fairy type, or even a real newage, aging hippie .. I’m a pretty practical, down-to-earth blunt speaking person. I wouldn’t call myself a conformist but I also wouldn’t call myself a radical non-conformist either .. I just like doing my own thing and think I dance best to the music of my own drums. I hate being scammed, and I hate being bs’d .. I like direct information. Don’t sugar-coat it, just give me the pill and I’ll take it.

Well, in a very real way that’s what this 90-minute movie does. As you watch you realize they aren’t selling you anything. Sure, you can buy the DVD but you don’t have to. Sure, you can buy the other books the dozen or more professionals in the film have written but you don’t have to. Not once did I hear a single pitch for anything. What I heard was an extraordinary explanation of what the Secret is, and how it works. I heard what I have to do to make it work. That was the revelation, for me.

What I have to do to make it work.

I have to do one thing, really. It’s amazingly simple, and in return, amazingly difficult. I have to believe in me.

There are 3 primary steps:

1. Ask.
2. Answer
3. Receive.

So, place your order, have your order delivered, and be home to sign for it. Sounds silly huh? It’s not. While I am minimizing the process somewhat here, it really is simple. Understanding what the steps entail is where the complexity and difficulty comes in for so many of us.

We are inherently suspicious of anything that seems too easy. Really. Our cultural upbringing and mores don’t allow us to do anything without the prerequisite blood, sweat and tears (apologies to the singing group!). If you don’t work hard for it, you cannot have it. I believed this as well. For almost 54 years I’ve believed this.

Today, I do not believe this.

Today, I believe that I will have those things I truly want and I will have them because I asked for them. I don’t know how, and the more I study this, the more I realize, I don’t need to know how, I just need to let it happen. Or as the Beatles sang, “Let it Be.”

And best of all … it’s actually begun to happen.

If you don’t know The Secret, now is a good time to discover it for yourself.